THE ADVICE THAT OLDER WOMEN HAVE FOR THE YOUNG ON LOVE, MARRIAGE.

An elderly couple holds hands while waiting to cross a London street.


One question: 
What’s one thing older women would like younger women to know about love and marriage?
When it comes to choosing a mate, I heard again and again: Choose carefully.
Looking back over their long experience, they believe some women are not careful enough. In their view, they tend to do one of three risky and possibly disastrous things:First, they can fall passionately in love and commit immediately, Romeo and Juliet style; second, they can, especially as they reach their 30s, commit out of desperation, for fear that no one better will come along; third, they can drift or fall into marriage without the choice or its reasons ever becoming clear to themselves or others. 
The elders reject these ways of thinking.
“it is better to not marry than to marry the wrong person. Both my husband and I were married once before, and it took that experience to learn this lesson."
Virginia, 73, described rushing into marriage as one of the biggest mistakes anyone can make. So please, tell younger people: When it comes to marriage, don’t rush into things.
Give it time before you jump in. I could have made a major difference in my life if I had chosen my husband carefully, really gotten to know him before committing to the relationships. Know the person in and out before you get married. You think nowadays that you can get out of it easily, but that’s not always the case.
"The biggest mistake is being too quick to enter a marriage," she said. "Get to know that person very, very well in all circumstances, the happiness part and the stressful parts. So both people have to be very willing and very open, and often times make concessions, as they get to know each other. So please, take a very serious look. You cannot mold your spouse into something that you want.''
STRATEGIES TO HELP MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE:
1. Think the old-fashioned way.
The elders suggest you think about whether your future spouse will be a “good provider.” It’s an old-fashioned term, but it embodies a fundamental truth: marriage may be about love, but it’s also an economic arrangement that unites the financial futures of the partners. So women (and men, too) need to ask: Does my prospective mate like to work? Will he or she hold up their end financially? And can they responsibly handle money? The elders told story after story of having to carry the economic load and handle someone else’s debts and bad financial decisions.

2. Do other people like your partner?

You don't need to make the choice entirely on your own, older women say. Listen to your friends and family: Do they like your partner? Do they think you're being treated well? Do they think your partner is serious about the relationship? I heard from elders who made a wrong choice: “If only I’d listened when people told me this was a bad decision.” 

3. Make a list. Yes, seriously.

Write down an actual list of what you need out of a relationship and whether those needs are being met. Rowena, 69, found the list helped her. "When I met Graham and decided to get involved with him, I sat down with a piece of paper and I wrote pros and cons. I was in my 30s at that point, and I said 'Hmm, you know, this is what I want.' And this guy had those qualities — many more good ones than bad ones.
"By that time in my life, I was awake to what I needed. And really sitting there with a piece of paper did it. It may sound cold-blooded, but I made a list of what I and what he could bring to the situation. At this point I had a little boy and what he needed was very important to me — and it turned out very well."

4. Do your life goals align?

The elders say that women should make sure — before committing — that their partner’s goals for a good life together align with theirs. Unfortunately, such discussions are sometimes not explicit and detailed. They suggest serious discussions about one another’s goals and aspirations for work and career, for how expensive a lifestyle you wish to live, and particularly important — children. Nadine, 65, pointed out that women may assume their partner wants kids. "In fact, a couple may disagree substantially on this issue,'' she said. "In my job, I sometimes counsel young people and a lot of times they say: 'Oh well, we’ll just bracket that question for now.' 
"But sometimes people actually have pretty strong feelings about whether they will or won’t have children. And one person can say, 'I really want children.' The other one says, 'Well, I’m not sure' and they let it go. But sometimes that really means no. And I have seen heartache there as a result. So they should ask: 'Well, what can you imagine your life might be like in 10 years? Does it involve children?'
Of course, both this general advice and the specific tips apply to men as well as women. 

ZAFAA AWARDS 2018 : THE BIGGEST AFRICAN FILM FESTIVAL AWARD IN LONDON ..

Sporah meets Prince Sam Anwuzia, CEO/President ZAFAA Global Awards and the way forward for Nollywood Africa and in the Diaspora. And Actress Theodora Ibekwe.

NOLLYWOOD ENTERTAINMENT LTD. UK presents ZAFAA AWARDS 2018 - Saturday, 17 November 2018 at Grace Point, London, England.
The African Film Festival and Academy Awards (also known as ZAFAA) is a highly regarded and anticipated film event within the African communities and has already become a part of the UK’s annual cultural film festival calendar.

ZAFAA's main aim is to promote African movies and culture as well as compliment African.

Zulu African Film Academy Awards "ZAFAA" rewards African films in the diaspora. It has been held in London, United Kingdom since its inaugural edition in 2006. The 2015 and 2016 awards were planned to be celebrated in Africa for the first time.
ZAFAA Global Awards from Diaspora’s perspective, dedicated to promoting African movies and entertainment industry makers to the outside world. It is the biggest African Film Festival ever that attracts crème de la crème of African International stars outside of Africa, to meet and socially meet-one-on-one, deliberate, network during and after the exhibition of Africa’s post-colonial culture.


ZAFAA Award 2018 takes place on the 17th of November in London.

DATE AND TIME



Sat 17 November 2018

17:00 – 23:30 GMT

LOCATION

Grace Point
Essex Road 
London 
N1 2SN
Thank you Team Zafaa for being the best guests I could ever ask for.

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WALE TURNER: THE NEW KID ON THE BLOCK, ONE ON ONE WITH SPORAH.

Meet Wale Turner: Nigerian Rapper, #AfroBeats. Wale Turner, was born in the heart of Lagos Nigeria , Wale Turner- real name Turner Omowaleola – grew up listening to some of the most influential artistes around him - home and abroad- Wiz Khalifa, Chris brown, Ozuna from (Puerto Rican ), Olamide (Nigeria) mo-hits, and of course the one and only Ayinde Barrister, King Sunny Ade.

Like most other artist, Wale turner started off his career as a freestyle rapper managing to get his floss raps on any free beats at the age of 16. 
Growth they say, is key - Wale Turner would go on to release a couple of sensational records since 2016 till this day.
A creative individual, Wale turner who also raps in French has worked with a few record producers in Nigeria; Tefa, Deetunes, Spellz and particularly Pheelz – who officially produced his debut and sophomore singles respectively.

Wale Turner’s dexterity has garnered him some respect amongst other top industry artistes progressing into collaborations with Tiwa Savage, Yungsix, Ice prince, Iceberg slim, Kayswitch amongst others.

I like to date OLDER women! ‬
‪They're more mature!‬
‪Understands me when I say I am busy at the studio!‬
‪No games, less insecurity. Said Wale Turner .. 


The NEW kids from Nigeria Wale Turner and Bode Blaq The Ones to watch out for #AfroBeats 

Even with these little achievements to date, who knows what the future holds for this young artist, in Wale Turner words he plans to “create timeless music that will hopefully last longer for many generations”.

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SPORAH MEETS THE BEAUTY QUEENS OF MISS AFRICA GREAT BRITAIN 2018.


Meet the Beauty Queens Of Miss Africa Great Britain "GB" 2018.
Miss Africa GB Beauty pageant is an award winning pageant and a part of the Annual Miss AfricaCharity Awards. It is open to UK nationals of African origin.

Miss Africa Great Britain mission is to “give young African girls born or living in the UK a platform to showcase not only their beauty but their culture, talent and creativity.”

The pageant is typical in that there’s an evening wear round, where the beauty queens parade down a catwalk in a beautiful dress and a crown; a cultural wear round, where the queens model traditional dress from their native African countries; a talent round, and an interview round. The winner goes on to become a goodwill ambassador for Miss Africa GB, a role which revolves around implementing a charity programme in their native country. Of 26 contestants from 14 African countries, last year’s crown went to Larissa Tcheukam from Cameroon, a student and health practitioner whose mission is to support the education of underprivileged children, which was the basis for her charity mission to Cameroon in March this year.

Our main goal is to use the allure of beauty Queens and models as tools to advocate for the needy and campaign or fund-raise for the less privileged. Our model is not just to raise funds for causes, but also to supervise and execute these projects. This ensures that funds are used for the sole purpose they were raised for.

And.... It's finally a wrap.

Special thanks to you all ladies, i hope you had fun and look forward to seeing you at the grand finale 13th October 2018.

Love Sporah xoxo

I WAS BORN IN GHANA RAISED IN THE U.K: "GOLDKAY" The Next Big Thing.

Sporah meets with Britain’s got Talent Semi Finalist Gold Kay Official

He goes by the Name of “GoldKay” real name is Nana Kay... Was born in Ghana raised in the UK.
Recently featured on the 1st season of All together now with Geri Helliwell on BBC 1. Featured on Comedians Special Come Dine with Me with Gina Yashare and various other TV Shows.

“GoldKay”  Featured on Comedians Special Come Dine with Me with Gina Yashare  and various other TV Shows. He has done backing vocals for Take That, Dappy, Crazy Cousins just to Name a few... And been nominated for 2 awards for this years Ghana Music Awards UK for the following categories:
#UK Based Afrobeats Artist of the Year
#UK Based Uncovered Artist of the Year 

We talked about Music in the UK
Is there space for Afrobeats Music in the UK?

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FIND OUT WHO IS REPRESENTING YOUR COUNTRY ON MISS AFRICA GREAT BRITAIN 2018.


Who is carrying your flag?? 
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Miss Africa Great Britain Finalist. Tomorrow 1pm to 2pm... Your chance to see who is representing your country on Miss Africa Great Britain 2018. #DontMissOut #TheSporahShow 

SUJUI NANI ANATUWAKILISHA🇹🇿 KWENYE HAYA MASHINDANO... Kesho tutakua LIVE kwenye INSTAGRAM na FACEBOOK na TWITTER.. Saa TISA MCHANA TZ time. #NaombaUsikose.