21 TOXIC THINGS YOU NEED TO STOP DOING IF YOU WANT TO LIVE A STRESS-FREE LIFE

FEEL HAPPY AND STRESS-FREE: In today’s world it’s all too easy to get distracted from what’s truly important. Wherever you go. and whatever you do, you see messages designed to get you to perform a specific action and distract you from the fact that you are already whole.

“No yesterdays are ever wasted for those who give themselves to today.” ~Brendan Francis There are no reminders to be mindful unless we create them.

The responsibility is in your hands. Staying in the present moment can dramatically reduce stress, increase your happiness, and give you bursts of insight that might change your life. Ever since I’ve started becoming aware of my thoughts and staying in the now, my life has improved significantly, and I know yours will, too. Here are a few down-to-earth tips on how to become more mindful to enhance your life: 

 1. NOTICE YOUR TENDENCIES.

You and I, we both have our unique tendencies that distract us from the present moment. I’m a worrier, so I tend to think about the future and try to solve problems before they even happen. What are your tendencies? What kind of thoughts tend to rob you of the now?vThese questions will help you become more mindful about what is going on in your head, which in turn leads to mindfulness.

A few examples of tendencies that are very common are:
  • anxiety
  • worry
  • regret
  • guilt
  • fear
  • pleasure seeking
A great tip is to write down your tendencies and how they tease you out of the now. Grab a piece of pen and paper, and just do it.

2. QUESTION YOUR THOUGHTS.

Your thoughts aren’t always right. In fact, they are rarely right, especially if they make you feel bad. Question your thoughts constantly. When you start to feel negative emotions, use it as a reminder to examine what thoughts are causing the commotion. Most people walk around all day letting negative thoughts cause negative feelings. We both know that nothing good  can come out of this. It takes discipline to be mindful, but the rewards are peace and happiness. Even researchers are discovering the power of emotions. Negative emotions not only have the power to make you feel bad, but can affect your physical health as well.Whenever a negative thought arises, take a step back, and look at if the thought is it rue.

3.  FOLLOW YOUR PASSION.

I have noticed that the more I follow my passion and my hearts deepest desire, the more I am able to stay in the now. I enjoy every second of every minute when I’m working on something I love. My heart buzzes with joy and I feel amazing. Writing is one of my passions. I love helping people improve their life. It makes me come alive, and it keeps me in the present moment. Inspiration flows effortlessly, and it’s almost like I am channeling someone else as I am writing. Find your passion and go after it.


4. CARING ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK 
If you want to do something, then do it. Don’t waste any of your valuable time entertaining other people’s opinions on a situation. If there is something you want to do that makes you happy, then that is all that should matter to you. People’s views are irrelevant when it comes to your happiness. Unfortunately, too many people fail to realize this and end up with a life of regrets, instead of meaningful experiences.

 5. OVERANALYZING SITUATIONS THAT HAVEN’T EVEN HAPPENED 
It’s human nature to stress about things that have yet to happen, but when you think about it rationally, what’s the point? You can’t predict the future, and you certainly can’t change something that has not even happened yet. Deal with the situation as it comes, and react accordingly. It’s the only way to mold the experience to your benefit. 

6. WORRYING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE TO THE POINT OF EXHAUSTION
 I get it. You want to look your best. Honestly, in the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter if you wear your hair curly or straight. There’s no reason to try on every single outfit in your closet before going out. Think about it: You bought these items for a reason… put something on, smile at yourself in the mirror and be on your way. You have better things to concern yourself with, or at least you should. 

7. NOT LIVING IN THE MOMENT 
This goes hand-in-hand with overanalyzing situations that have yet to happen, but this includes your past mistakes and situations that have already come and gone as well. 
The only thing you can gain from the past are the lessons it taught you. No good can come from replaying situations you cannot hope to fix. Make peace with them and move on… because who you were then is definitely not who you are now. 

8. TAKING ON OTHER PEOPLE’S PROBLEMS 
There’s a reason you put the oxygen mask on yourself before attempt to help others. You have your own issues and dilemmas that you must take care of before you can even think of helping someone else. Sure, this may sound cynical and harsh, but, at the end of the day, you need to handle your life — and if that means keeping others’ negativity out of it, so be it. 

9. SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO DON’T MAKE YOU HAPPY
 Why people still hang around others out of obligation is utterly beyond me. Learn to accept that, sometimes, people from your past serve little to no role in your present. In actuality, they bring stress and drama into your life because you feel as if it is your responsibility to deal with their issues. Their problems are their own, and as you grow up, this is something that becomes more and more apparent. 

10. FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE INSTEAD OF WHAT YOU DO HAVE
 Do you know how many people would be over the moon with their lives if they had what you had? I’m not talking about material things either — although they do fit in this category. Surrounding yourself with great friends who care about you and a family who loves you are two of the most amazing things to have in your life. So stop worrying if you have the latest trendy item and appreciate the intangible items all around you. 

11. STAYING AT A JOB THAT YOU SEE NO FUTURE WITH
Of course, everyone, at one point or another, takes on a job just to pay the bills. But it’s so important to remember that, in the long run, a paycheck isn’t going to bring you the happy life a great career can. Money will only take you so far, your lifestyle is what is going to lead you to true happiness.

 12. TAKING ON MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE
Everyone has a breaking point, and this is a line you want to draw sooner than later. Don’t take on too many tasks simultaneously because all you will do is drive yourself to the brink of insanity. Multi-tasking, which may appear more efficient, often results in putting the minimum effort into multiple projects. Spreading yourself too thin rarely has favorable outcomes. 

13. CLUTTERING YOUR LIFE
Whether this is physically or mentally, you need to cut the bullsh*t out of your life. Is someone bringing you unnecessary aggravation? Cut that person out. Are you living in a city that only makes you miserable? Make the change. 

14. HOLDING ON TO GRUDGES AND ANGER
You know who suffers from holding on to anger? You do. When people hold on to bitterness and grudges, they falsely believe that they are making the other person suffer. In reality, the object of your anger disregarded your feelings in the first place, and isn’t losing sleep over your lingering distaste. What makes you think this person is dwelling on the situation? Even if someone has not given you the apology you rightfully deserve, just let it go. The sooner you stop caring, the better off you will be. 

15. LIVING TOO MUCH IN YOUR PAST 
Your past is… your past. It happened. Learn from it and let it be. There is nothing you can do to change it, so the sooner you accept it for what it was, the quicker you will be able to make peace with it. Stop holding people to standards that you created in your mind years ago. Take people for who they are and what they have to offer now. You will be pleasantly surprised to see how much people can change and mature over the years. 

16. COMPLAINING ABOUT THINGS THAT CAN’T BE CHANGED
You had a fight with a friend and said some things you wish you hadn’t… stop complaining. You lost a promotion to a coworker who rightfully deserved it… stop complaining. You didn’t get asked on a second date… stop complaining. An unfortunate truth in life is that some things just happen. You need to accept them for what they are. Complaining isn’t going to change anything except the tolerance levels of the people you surround yourself with. 

17. … ACTUALLY,  JUST COMPLAINING
Can everyone just stop complaining altogether? How much more positive would your life be if you stopped looking at the world as a glass half empty? The only thing that complaining does is bring negative energy into your life, and, honestly, who the hell wants a life full of that? 

18. HAVING POOR EATING AND DIETING HABITS
Not feeling comfortable in your own skin is probably one of the worst — if not the worst — feelings a person can experience. Unfortunately, instead of making the changes to alter this predicament, people sadly accept it and think that’s just the way their lives have to be. The sooner you realize this does not have to be your lifestyle, the happier and more comfortable you will be. 

19. LIVING THROUGH OTHER PEOPLE’S LIVES
Whether it’s reality television or social media, living your life through other people’s experiences is nothing to be desired. Instead of lounging around, longing for a life of fun and travel, go out there and make this reality your own. That is, unless your favorite reality TV family is the Kardashians… don’t go out and emulate that lifestyle for the sake of humanity. 

20. FOCUSING ONLY ON YOUR INSECURITIES, NOT YOUR ATTRACTIVE QUALITIES
You know who notices the negatives more than the positives? You. You know who doesn’t? Everyone else. Sure, maybe you don’t look like Megan Fox (Honestly, who does?); maybe you don’t have the brains of Steve Jobs, but you have unique qualities that set you apart from everyone else. Live your life by your own set of standards and be a good person; this will shine through more than any potential insecurity. 

21. TRYING HARD TO BE SOMEONE ELSE INSTEAD OF EMBRACING YOUR ACTUAL SELF
Instead of focusing your time, effort and attention on other people’s lives, take that time and focus on your own. Concentrate on making yourself better instead of comparing yourself to someone else. You will never be that person, no matter how hard you try. Reflect on your life and your decisions and figure out a way to be the best possible version of yourself you can be. 

                                                       Sporah xoxo




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SPORAH TESTING FOR HIV LIVE ON TV.

Its HIV Testing Week, and this week on Vox Africa TV we have a very special program about HIV in the UK. Today Sporah will be talking to a remarkable young woman who is changing the way the community sees those living with the disease.

80% of people infected with HIV get the virus from someone who didn't know their status.
Yesterday I did My HIV Test LIVE On TV... It was toooo much to take, but I wanted the world to see how easy and simple is nowadays to do HIV test. And I was very Happy to share my results with the world because I believe HIV is no longer a death penalty. 
All went well #ThankGod Special Thanks to Paida who motivate me to do so.


Meet PAIDA who is on a mission to simply educate the community about what is like to be a young person living with HIV.
She was born with HIV,  she was informed she was HIV positive when she was just 11 yrs old.
Paida decided to come out as HIV Positive on social media aged 16
Now she is a Mother to a health baby boy as seen on the picture.


In the UK one in five people who have HIV don’t know they have it. In 2012 almost half of those diagnosed were diagnosed late, meaning they have been living with the virus for at least four years. Late diagnosis can result in worse health outcomes, a decreased life expectancy and a greater chance of passing the virus on.
 People diagnosed late also have a ten-fold increased risk of death within one year of HIV diagnosis compared to those diagnosed promptly.


Getting tested for HIV means that, If you do have HIV, you can start your treatment before the infection damages your body and health.


Many, if not most, people with HIV go on to live normal lives; they do have to take medication every day, but most are able to do so without major side effects and without major disruptions in their lives. They go to school, they work, they play, and they have relationships. That’s not to say that there aren’t challenges, there are. But having HIV is not a death sentence and HIV doesn’t have to take over your life. If you get treatment and stay on it, you can have a productive and meaningful life that is centered on other things that matter to you


Stigma is the no 1 problem affecting HIV people in our community.
Stigma is a huge barrie for people when it comes to living with HIV, with dating, sex, workplace and family.
Some people when they hear that someone’s HIV positive - especially us Africans - they’ll be seeing someone who’s dying, someone who is not supposed to touch anyone.”
HIV is an infection which many people have fears, prejudices or negative attitudes about.
Stigma can result in people with HIV being insulted, rejected, gossiped about and excluded from social activities.
Fear of this happening can lead to people with HIV being nervous about telling others that they have HIV or avoiding contact with other people.
They may end up suffering in silence instead of getting the help they need.
Stigma can also result in people with HIV believing the things that other people say about HIV.
For example, they may think it’s true that HIV is a death sentence or that most people with HIV are immoral or irresponsible.



STIGMA OF TESTING
Fear if i get diagnose what will i do
People have being  shot by family
How did i get it?
Mean you've been sleeping around!
I am a married man/woman why should i test?
We just had a just few years ago! (Women getting tested because of pregnancy)
Lack of trust (Are you telling me that shouldn't trust my partner?)
Why Fixing it if its not


STIGMA ON HIV DISEASE
Sexual disease (Means that you've been sleeping around)
If you find out you will die
Some people view HIV-positive women and men as a threat. Many become isolated – within their homes, in public, at their workplaces.
They are further stigmatized by others' assumptions about their moral integrity – such as the belief that they became infected with HIV because they chose to take part in risky behaviours.

SELF STIGMA
Insecurity or discomfort with their status
Involve fear in dating, Disclose of it.
 Assume someone is going to discriminate or reject you because you have HIV

 FAITH AND HIV
Faith in People believes that we see God’s healing very much at work in our world today through the skill of doctors, health professionals, medical and Pharmacutical reasearch and through the blessing that people receive through those who are able to affirm and accept us as we areIt is vital that all human beings receive positive unconditional love and acceptance for their growth and wellbeing, all of us need to know we are accepted and valued just for whom we are whatever illness or disability we may or may not be living with not least those living with HIV. This belief underpins our work
Whatever our faith, if it is a religion or a trust in the people around us, it can be a great source of strength to us. If we are worried about something, including HIV, we can use that faith to help us through.· Feeling loved, hopeful and peaceful, can help us feel stronger and to cope better. Religion often helps people to have these feelings.
80% of people infected with HIV get the virus from someone who didn't know their status, get tested! #HIVTestingWeek #NHTW Let's end the stigma. Join the thousands of people across the nation getting tested for HIV Testing Week and get tested today:


YOU might think it is something that happens to other people.
But anyone who has unprotected sex is at risk of contracting the HIV virus.
There are an estimated 100,000 people living with HIV or AIDs in the UK – and nearly a quarter of them are undiagnosed.
The only way to find out if you have HIV is to have an HIV test..... There is life after HIV. #HIVTestingWeek
#ItStartsWithMe
S p o r a h.

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'I'M PROOF HIV SHOULDN'T STOP YOU BEING A PARENT'

Paida Mutopo, 20, from Rochdale, was informed she was HIV-positive when she was just 11. But despite her fear of passing on the potentially fatal disease, she gave birth to her son Kai five months ago but tests have confirmed he is free of the virus.

Paid is a student who inherited HIV from her mother has spoken of her relief after giving birth to a healthy son. Paida Mutopo, 20, from Rochdale, was told she was HIV-positive when she was just 11 and feared she would never have children for fear of passing it on herself. But advances in treatment have mean the amount of the virus in her system is now undetectable - and she can lead a normal, healthy life. She was also able to take medication to reduce the risk of giving the virus to her children. Five months ago, she gave birth to her son Kai and was thrilled when tests confirmed he was free of HIV.

CATCH UP WITH SPORAH LIVE 9:00PM UK TIME ON VOX AFRICA TV - SKY 218, DSTV 191. 
Tune in to Vox Africa TV TOMORROW THURSDAY 17th Nov, 2016 at 9:00pm UK Time. on a very special program about HIV and people living with HIV.  Sporah will be talking to PAIDA who is on a mission to simply educate the community about what is like to be a young person living with HIV. Also we will have a special Doctor who will be taking all your questions concerning HIV Disease. 
REMEMBER It's going to be LIVE ON VOX AFRICA TV SKY 218 (Europe) DSTV 191 (Africa) You Can Join us by Calling direct and talk to Sporah LIVE on your TV wherever you are.
TOMORROW THURSDAY 17th Nov, 2016 at 9:00pm UK Time. STAY TUNED 😉 #Sporah #HIVTesting #ItStartsWithMe



ON THE STREET OF LONDON CAMPAIGNING FOR HIV TESTING!


As we approching the 1st of December -World Aids day, It's important to know your status. YOU might think HIV is something that happens to other people, but anyone who has unprotected sex is at risk of contracting the HIV virus. There are an estimated 100,000 people living with HIV or AIDs in the UK – and nearly a quarter of them are undiagnosed. The only way to find out if you have HIV is to have an HIV test. There is life after HIV.


NATIONAL HIV TESTING WEEK (NHTW) 2016


National HIV Testing Week (NHTW) 2016 will start on Saturday 19 November 2016.
NHTW 2016 will be the fifth annual testing week to promote HIV testing to gay and bisexual men and black African men and women.
WHY GET TESTED FOR HIV?
You should get tested if you’ve:
  • had sex without a condom
  • shared needles when injecting drugs
  • put yourself at risk of HIV in any other way or are worried you might have.
The only way to know if you have HIV is to get tested. A lot of people feel nervous about it, but the reasons to test far outweigh the reasons not to test. We look at the main reasons why you should get tested.

It’s quick and easy

Getting an HIV test is quick, easy and almost always free. It's also the only way to know for sure whether or not you have been infected and involves a quick saliva or blood test. 

It’s better to know

It's normal to feel worried about HIV. But why let yourself fear the unknown? Testing early for HIV can help put your mind at ease and reduce the anxiety of not knowing.

Whether your result is negative, or positive, it's always better to know so that you can move on with your life, or start treatment if necessary. And remember, your result may not be what you expect.

It can help you live a long and healthy life

If you do have HIV, being diagnosed at an early stage means that you have a better chance of living a long and healthy life. HIV attacks your immune system. If you're diagnosed early, you have a greater chance of protecting your immune system before it gets too weak and you get ill.  
With the right treatment and care, people living with HIV can expect to live as long as the average person, so it’s important to take control of your health by getting a test.

It means you can access treatment

Being diagnosed early also means you can get treatment earlier and help protect your current and future sexual partners. HIV treatment, called antiretroviral drugs, help to lower the levels of HIV in your body, meaning HIV cannot attack your immune system. Testing for HIV means that you can access treatment earlier – this will help you live a long and healthy life.

It supports healthy sexual relationships

Testing for HIV regularly means that you can look after the sexual health of you and your partner. If you're positive, you can prevent HIV from being transmitted to your partner by using condoms and by being on treatment.