HOW COULD THEY DO THIS TO ME, I'M SO HURT!

Hey Sporah,
I was with my boyfriend for close to four years. We lived together and planned on marrying. A month ago I went on a trip for a week, when I returned my bf and I talked and decided that we both needed some time to make sure we still wanted the same things. He never moved out and we never really stopped dating. Last week we decided that we couldn't live without each other and we were going to work it out. After reaching this decision I recieved a text from a friend letting me know that while I was on my trip my bf slept with my best friend. (Mind you we were still together at this point)He addmitted to the afair. I kicked him out of the house and I will never speak to my friend again. I am so hurt by all of this. Has anyone experienced this? Any advice for easing the pain. I loved him I wanted to marry him. How could they do this to me? I am so hurt.



Oh sweetie I know that must hurt :
Walking in on your boyfriend sleeping with your best friend is just beyond words. Now days, it’s so hard to trust your girlfriends with your boyfriend. At that moment, you have lost two important people in your life. Not only have you been betrayed by your boyfriend, you have also been backstabbed by your best friend. We all know how much it hurts to be betrayed by the very ones we love, and depend on, and despite the pain, cut these losers from your life and let ‘em have each other. This will leave a mark even though time will pass, learn to be more aware of who you go with, and have as a friend, in the future. Try not to let this interfere with any future relationships that you may encounter, everybody is different. Use it as a learning experience and try your best not to let it drag you down. Remember that with every ending comes a new beginning.

Much Love,
Sporah.

14 comments:

  1. Anonymous10:12

    Hakuna marafiki wa ukweli siku hizi jamani.

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  2. Anonymous10:25

    They dont treasure the love you gave them, move on girl and never look back.

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  3. Anonymous10:31

    It happen to me, i forgive but i dont forget!
    My question iwhy a friend?
    Not just a friend but best friend..its not that easy girlfriend.
    Just move on.

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  4. Anonymous10:44

    Hizi kesi sikuizi ni nyingi mno inaonyesha jinsi gani ambavyo hakuna marafiki wa ukweli.
    Mi nadhani kabla hujamuita mtu best friend na kuanzaa kushare siri zako embu jaribu kufanya uchunguzi kidogo kuhusu huyo mtu. Hii ilinitokea mimi kiliniuma mpaka ikabidi nimuadisie mama yangu mzazi maana huyu dada alikua rafiki yangu sana hata watu wengine walijuaga kwamba sisi ni sisters. Anyway
    Mama angu aliniambia kabla hujamuingiza rafiki katika maisha yako jaribu kufanya uchunguzi kuhusu huyo mtu kwanza maana hiii ni tabia ya mtu, utakuta alishamfanyia mtu mwingine somewhere somehow.
    Hivyo kina dada jaribuni kuchagua marafiki kwanza kama Sporah alivosema hapo juu. maana ni ukweli ni kwamba rafiki yoyote wa ukweli hawezi kukufanyia hivi. Angalie wasichana wa mjini jamani! lol
    "SIO KILA KING'AACHO NI DHAHABU"

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  5. Anonymous10:48

    That isn't something a good friend would do. I'd ditch her.

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  6. Anonymous11:00

    Hell no! Don't be friends with her!
    Don't take her back into your life. She'll probably trying to steal him again.
    What a homewrecker!
    Tell her to hit the road.
    Just my opinion.

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  7. Anonymous13:00

    Pole sana dada.

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  8. Anonymous14:18

    Rafiki anaetembea na mtu anaejua kwamba unampenda! MMH
    Then anaweza akakuua.
    Achana nae dada huyo sio rafiki ni muuaji.
    I wish ningeweza kuandika kiingereza kizuri.

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  9. Anonymous14:27

    DU SPORAH NIMEPENDA SANA USHAURI WAKO. UNABUSARA SANA WE MTOTO.
    IVI KWANI DADA UMEOLEWA?

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  10. Anonymous17:05

    A true friend will never hurt you.
    Gt rid of hr ASP.

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  11. Anonymous14:15

    Shetani mwenye mguu mmoja huyo. Achana nae.

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  12. Anonymous02:51

    Marafiki wa hivo ni wengi, cha muhimuni kuachana nao tu.
    Most of them are LOSERS.
    Nawajua wengi mmmmmnnnnoooo.

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  13. Anonymous03:06

    Du sporah hiyo advice yako hapo juu.
    You inspire me alot, I wish Kama ningekutana na wewe siku moja.

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  14. Anonymous05:13

    SPORAH,
    WHAT WILL YOU DO IF YOUR TO FIND OUT THAT YOUR CLOSE/BEST FRIEND WAS DATING OR IS DATING OR SLEPT WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND?
    PLEASE PLEASE SPORAH ANSWER MY QUESTION I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR YOUR VIEW.

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