Getting letters from my fans is always exciting, this week we received a very special Story from a young woman lived in Tanzania - East Africa.
Hi sporah! when i was in form 3 my teacher alinipa mimba,my dad alipogundua am pregnant alinifukuza home na kwa bahati mbaya my step mom dont like me so i had no support kweli nikaondoka home to mwenye mimba luckly he told me i dont have to worry he will marry me, so nikabak kwake for sometime bila my family kujua where exactly nilipokua. After a while dad akaanza kunitafuta then akajua ninapokaa by the time mimba ilikua na 7 months dad akanambia amenisamehe.
Basi nilivosamehewa mkaka akaona ndo right time ya kwenda home na ndugu zake kujitambulisha na kunitolea mahari. They paid pride price so sikurud home nikaendelea kukaa na mkaka God is good nikajifungua a beautiful baby gal unaweza kumuona kwenye photo zangu.nikamnyonyesha for mwaka na nusu then nikatoa two ideas kwa mkaka, kwamba i wish tubarik ndoa kanisan pili i told him nataka kurud shule, akakubali vyote then he asked me tuanze kipi.
Nikaomba ushauri to my family kua what should i go first wakanishaur nibarik ndoa then ndo niende shule coz i was supposed kwenda boarding school ili nisiwe na majukumu ya family na shule at the same time tukabariki ndoa in sept 2006 na 2007 nikarudi shule in form 4 remember nilistop in form 3. My God is good i did well in my studies advance nikachaguliwa government school na muda wote my hubby alikua ananisupport sana he even paid my school fees, form 5 nilisoma vzr sana, things started to change form 6.
Basi nikiwa form 6 akaanza kuchange akawa hapigi simu wala hanitext mpaka nimuanze na sometimes hata nikianza akawa hapokei sim zangu wala hareply msg zangu i had no choice zaidi ya kua mpole na kusubiri nimaliza shule ndo nirudi home nikaone kinachoendelea. Ikiwa bado 1 week kumaliza mtihani nilimuomba anitumie nauli akanijibu hana pesa labda nisubiri baada ya 2 weeks, bahati nzr i had some money so nilivomaliza mtihani nikaamua kurud kwangu bila kumwambia.
Nilipofika nikaambiwa kasafir kikaz, home tulikua tunaishi na mtoto wa sister ake na my baby na ndo niliwakuta nyumbani, master bedroom na chumba cha wagen kulikua locked but kilichonishangaza zaid ni sitting room nilikuta family pictures zote hazipo kasoro moja tu ya baby girl akiwa peke yake. Nnikamuuliza binti picha zimeenda wap akanijibu baba alitoa, akili yangu ikaniambia something is wrong somewhere nikaamua kuvunja kitasa cha room kwetu unajua nilichokikuta mamii?
Nilikuta vitu vyangu vyote havipo chumban kwetu vipo vyake tu, nikiwa bado nashangaa nikaona funguo za chumba cha wagen nilipokifungua nikakuta vitu vyangu ndo vimefungiwa huko. Kesho yake nikafanya usaf room kwetu nikarudishia vitu vyangu, after 2days tangu nimefika akarud nyumban. Alistuka sana kuniona nikanyamaza nione what will be his next move cha ajabu hakunisalimia wala nini akaenda chumban akaingia bafun kuoga akalala. Sikutaka kumsumbua kwa maswali ucku huo coz nilihisi anawezakua amechoka na safari.
Bac asbh ilipofika i asked him tatizo nin he replied hakuna tatizo, cku zikasonga akawa anarudi home ucku sana kila cku, bac cku moja alisahau his wallet wakati anaenda kazn, inside the wallet kulikua na cm card tofauti za zile cm card zake ninazozjua. Nikaweka ile cm card in my phone nikakuta love msgs kwenye inbox na sent items pia. Nikachukua
namba za msichana aliekua anachart nae, it took me week nzima kufikiria what step should i take.. na ckumwambia kama najua kua ananicheat. Basi after a week nikaamua kumcall yule msichana, alivopokea simu yangu nikajitambulisha kua naitwa fulani ni mke wa fulani. I told her najua kua unarelationshp na mume wangu, chaajabu hata hakubisha she asked me niko wapi.
Nikamwambia nipo kwangu, akashangaa then she asked if we can meet cku inayofuata,nikakubali.we met sikuinayofuata. She came alone ila mimi i was with my baby girl, tukasalimiana, then i asked her kama anajua kua mwanaume anaetoka nae kua huyo mwanaume wake ni mume wa mtu? Akajibu yes bt she told me kwamba my hubby told her that 'mke wangu alitoroka miaka 4 iliyopita na sijui yuko wapi'.!
End of the day we separated maana he told me amechoka kuishi na mimi as for me nilivoona mateso na manyanyaso yamezidi nikaamua kuondoka ma niliondoka na mtoto wangu, fun enough he never called my parents to explain why kanirudisha home na wala hajawahi kuja kwetu na tangu nimeondoka kwake ni miaka miwili now. Sasa nina miaka 26 nasoma chuo naingia mwaka wa tatu. After what i have been through nafikiri kisaikolojia nimekua affected I HATE MEN and i no longer enjoy SEX. Wanaume weng wananitaka but naona wote waongo wanataka tu kunichezea.
Thanx much Sporah. nimejisikia vizuri baada ya kukusimulia coz sijawahi kumsimulia mtu ambae sio mwanafamilia. hope umeielewa kidogo maana kusimulia kwa maandishi ni kazi sana
THE TRANSLATION:
Hi Sporah! At form 3 my teacher impregnated me; when my Dad discovered, I was driven out of home; and unfortunately my Step mom disliked me so handed me no support.
Luckily the Father of my unborn child let me into his home and promised to marry me; so I stayed with him for sometime without my family’s knowledge of my where-abouts. Seven months on, my Father had a change of heart and decided to look for me; and forgave me, even after finding out who I found refuge in.
My informal fiancé thought this would be the right time for him to make it formal by properly introducing himself to my family and pay the Bride Price. As it was official, I didn’t see the point of going back to my Father’s house; so stayed at my ‘official’ soon to be Husband’s house. God is Great, two months later we welcomed a Beautiful baby girl.
After a Year of Breast feeding, I thought maybe it was time to Bless the relationship by having a church wedding then I could also go back to school. He and my family were very supportive. In 2007, we thought it was best that I attended Boarding school, to strengthen my focus, away from family responsibilities, after the church wedding in September 2006. In God’s Greatness, I did well enough to be selected to a Government advance school and my Husband was still very supportive; from covering my fees to making sure I was taken care of in general.
Everything was Great, until form 6 when I stopped hearing from him. He also neither picked up my calls nor replied my texts. I couldn’t really do anything as I needed him to keep paying for my school fees. A week before the end of term, I asked him to please send me the transport fare to get back home, he told me to wait two weeks as he didn’t have any money at the time. Luckily, I had a little savings of my own, so decided to go back home without informing him.
During my school time, we asked his niece to move in, to help with the house work and the baby; who informed me that my husband was away on a business trip when I got back.
It felt weird in my own home, as I looked around and a few things had been changed and moved around. Also noticed our wedding and family pictures were no longer in the lounge, all removed apart from my daughter’s pictures; his niece informed me that my husband took them off, and also locked the master bedroom and the guestroom.
Now, I really needed to know what had been going on in this house and why things were changed; so decided to break the bedroom doors. Only to find all my stuff had been moved from our marital bedroom and packed in the Guest room.
Though still in shock, the next day, I cleaned the master bedroom and placed all my things back.
I was still quite upset and shocked, so said nothing to him when he got back 2 days later, plus I figured he must have been exhausted from the trip so wanted him to rest first.To my surprise, he didn’t have anything to say to me either, he went straight to bed.
In the morning, I asked him if there was anything we needed to talk about and he told me there wasn’t; but as days went by, he kept coming home after everyone had gone to bed.
One day, he forgot his wallet when he left for work; inside there was a different phone Sim-card with the number I wasn’t familiar with. As I went through the phone line using my phone, I was upset and shocked to find love messages from another woman. It took me a whole week, but finally gathered courage to get in touch with the other woman who was amazed to hear that I was in my husband’s house because as far as she knew, I was no longer in the picture.
She asked if we could meet up and talk; wanting to know what was going on, I agreed. She came alone and I showed up with my Daughter.
She told me she knew that the man she was dating was married, but he had told her that he had no knowledge of my whereabouts since the day I ran away from my marriage 4 years back, and left him all alone with our only child; and so was no longer in the picture.
When confronted, he had no further explanations than he was just tired of being with me; and as I had had enough, decided to move out with our daughter, back to my parent’s house. It’s been two years now since I moved out, but he hasn’t either rang my parents to explain himself or come to see his child.
I’m 26 years old now, in my third year of University. I thank God for getting me this far education-wise and keeping me strong through all this. My love life is just not as fortunate; as I absolutely HATE MEN and no longer enjoy Sex. I just can’t let Love in my life again because I don’t know how to trust men anymore.
Anyway, I appreciate your time, It definitely helps to let it out.
Translation By Linda Kapinga
Translation By Linda Kapinga
Thank You Very Much For Sharing Your Private Story With Us
You Are Really A Champion.Your Letter To Sporah Is A Remarkable And Touching Inspiration For All Of Us.Good Luck In Everything That You Do, I Wish You All The Luck In The World. Just Enjoy Your Family, You Deserve Everything That Is Coming Your Way.Godbless.
DO YOU HAVE YOUR OWN TOUCHING & INSPIRING STORY TO TELL?
LOVE STORY, VIOLENCE, SEXUAL ABUSE, OR ANY DISASTER STORIES?
HAVE YOU EVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS AND REGRET IT? OR PURSUE YOUR DREAMS AND IT SUCCEEDED?
WE WANT TO HEAR YOUR STORIES AND INSPIRE MORE MUCH PEOPLE WITH YOUR STORIES! YOUR STORY MIGHT HELP ANOTHER PERSON IN OVERCOMING CHALLENGES.
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hi Sporah,
ReplyDeleteIf you want real change, invite real teachers to your show to talk about this.
Do you think a “good” teacher should spend time with Students.
nimependa sana vazi lako sporah
ReplyDeleteGod bless you
ReplyDeleteWhat you need to do is get over him, There are so many men out there its not worth it to waste your time on one who left you for someone else. Trust me your much better without him.
ReplyDeleteMove on is all i have to say. Try to could get his money for child support, be strong, some men are like that, do not feel bad, you are lucky that he left you with 1 child. Very sorry girl
ReplyDeleteNo wayyyyyyyyy that son of a ***** he only wanted to have sex with you he only used you.
ReplyDeleteyou dont
ReplyDeletesorry he left you
but hes a jerk (n)
let it go
find someone else
GOD Bless you Always Beloved Sporah and all the people that work with you.
ReplyDeleteYou Are My Heroes!!! Thank You so much for everything you do.
Much Love, Light, Respecta.
Jamani wakati mwingine wanaume ni wabaya mpaka basi, pole sana mdogo wangu,
ReplyDeletevery touching story, NO COMMENT.
ReplyDeletehuyo alikua SHETWANI
ReplyDeleteAisee, kuna vitu mi huwa siamni kama mtu uliokua unalalanae kitanda kimoja anawezaje kukugeuka kiasi hicho????????
ReplyDeleteKweli MWANAUME SIO NDUGU YAKO, NEVER.
Pole sana sana my dear.
Sorry darling, Let me tell you my story,
ReplyDeleteA little over 2 month ago my boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue, he just said that something was missing from our relationship. I was devastated, we dated for 9 years, never fought, had trips planned for this summer and everything. This happened on April and i didnt hear from him at all up to now.
Am done with love, i really don't see my self in love with anyone again, EVER.
NAOMBA UMPELEKE HUYO MTOTO KWENYE MAKABURI PALE KINONDONI, TAFUTA KABURI LA ZAMANIIIIIIII, UMWAMBIE MTOTO HUYU NDIO ALIKUAGA BABA YAKO, NA ALISHAFARIKI, JARIBU KUTEBELEA TEMBELEA MAKABURI ILI MTOTO AZOEEE, HALAFU CLOSE THE CHAPTER NA HUYO MBWA.
ReplyDeleteUSIMPE CHANCE, PUMBAVU MKUBWA HUYO ALIKUA ANAKUARIBIA FUTURE YAKO NA WAKATI ALITAKIWA KUA MWALIMU WAKO, YANI NATAMANI NIMJUE NIKAMRARUE, MSHENZI KABISA.
POLE SANA MDOGO WANGU, MUNGU ATAKUSAIDIA UTAKUTANA NA MWANAUME MWINGINE MZURI NA MAISHA YAKO YATAKUA YAKAWAIDA TU, HAYO N MAJARIBU TU YA SHETANI.
Hi,
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear about your breakup. i had something similar, My ex couldn't give me any reasons, either. Three months after, I stupidly got in touch with him and eventually asked if he could clarify what happened between us. he took advantage and started sleeping with me again when he feel like, What I got back from him was a MURDER!!!!!! He really really F..C..K my life.
Stay far away from him.
NDIO MAANA MI NAWATUMIAGA TU WANAUME, WALET YAKO HAINAKITU, CHUKUA TIME
ReplyDeleteMCHWIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII
Not all men are bad .
ReplyDeleteHave faith... believe in your heart that there was a reason for it.... maybe he got out of the way to make room for the man of your dreams. Time (and I know how much of a bastard TIME can be) will bring better things, and Time washes away the pain.
ReplyDeleteRemember.... there's always someone else out there that is feeling the same way..... always. I am... right at this minute I'm thinking about making love to her...... and wondering if someone else is doing the thigns i did with her right now.
ws nt mn 2b, mov on
ReplyDeleteWhatever you are going through, you are not alone don't EVER forget that.
ReplyDeleteYoung girls need to know that it only takes one sperm to do the job, and that could be the one on your finger. ... Please use birth control pills or condoms if you are going to play.
ReplyDeleteThank you sporah for giving voice to the voice-less.
ReplyDeletepole sana dada
ReplyDeleteYou should talk to him face to face and get a reason out of him to why he dumped you :)
ReplyDeleteYou must have some idea why he did this, they don't usually walk away from a happy marriage, he was just waiting for the kids to be old enough to do this, what can you do ? nothing really it was his choice to do this. Just move on
ReplyDeleteAlikua nuksi tu huyo F*****************
ReplyDeletepole sana sana dada
ReplyDeleteMEEEEEEEEEEEEENNNNNNNNNNNNNN AM DONE WITH THEMMMMMMM.
ReplyDeleteThis is where i got into allot of stuff I didn't even understand, but it all ended the same way. Needed more spells, more money, and
ReplyDeletenothing ever worked like these so called spell casters, physics, mediums, wicca's, pagans, egyptian magic spells, or anyone else
said. Literally I spent over 50,000 on spells in just 6 months. Let me help you out there, the people reading this, I have literally tried
almost every spell caster out there and they all just took my money and made promises that they could not keep. 50,000 dollars
worth of broken promises and lies. In all honesty its not even about the money. I would gladly give any amount of money to have
my love back, but it was about the empty hopes and promises. The constant torture of thinking she would come back and didn't.
The emotional roller coaster that these people put me through should be against the law. At one point I almost committed suicide.
Had it not been for the kids being there I would have and would not have thought twice about it. Then with the last bit of dignity
that I had I turned to freemercytemple@yahoo.com . I didn't have any money left at this point and had lost about all hope in ever
getting twinny back but i still contributed with the little i have and with hopes with the email and advice i was meant to do anything,i
just did as the freemercytemple@yahoo.com said in 6 days i got twinny back begging to forgive in what ever way she has
offended me and with this spell casting i am happy again with my only lover.
your Mr right is just on the corner
ReplyDeleteIs it a transformation 2 lesbian????????????????
ReplyDeleteI though I was the only one crying lol
ReplyDeleteYou made my day sporah show
Thank you so so soooooo much
Girls need to wake up!
ReplyDeletena wewe ulimvuliaje mwalimu wako nguo from the 1st place.
ReplyDeletenice guests today, LOVE THE SHOW
ReplyDeleteSome men are. Like snake lol
ReplyDeletePole Sana mamii na mimi nakupongeza kwa kurudi shule. Huyo mwanaume na mpumbavu kwanza angefunguliwa mashitaka kwa kukupotezea muda wako na kukupa mimba ukiwa shule. Alikuharibu akili mapema saana. Any way maisha mafupi wewe mfutilie mbali na kwa sababu yake usije ukaacha kuishi na kupendwa sio wanaume wote wako hivi jamani kuna wanaume wazuri na unaweza kupendwa mpaka ukashangaa. Mimi ushauri wangu ni maliza shule kwanza uwe na kazi yako nzuri ya kukuwezesha kumtunza mwanao na wewe then you can open your heart mamii. ila kwa sasa just mind about your education and things will fall in place and you will be able to have a good love life.
ReplyDeleteGood Advice, hata namimi nimejifunza, ASANTE SANA
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