I HATE MY MOM’S BOYFRIEND..! HE MAKES MY BLOOD BOIL!


Boyfriend's Mother Makes MY BLOOD BOIL!  Before I begin, I really am trying to be as mature as possible.

My mum and her boyfriend go way back. They've been friends for a long time, before marrying our dad. To beging with I HATE HIM.
 He is a tramp and all he does is sit around and do nothing. No one in my family likes him. 

Honestly Sporah,  I don't know if I am looking more for advice, support, or just an understanding ear to listen, but please read and respond. 

This is a bit length, but thanks in advance to anyone who reads and offers advice or personal stories from a similar situation. I mean, My mom and I are usually really close but all of a sudden whenever her boyfriend comes over she completely blows me off! They go out and take forever, and she even serves him dinner before me!

Sometimes, he comes over with two bottles of wine, gives her one and a half bottles and she gets very drunk. They do disgusting things right in front of me (not sex, but nearly everything else. RIGHT.IN.FRONT.OF.ME. Yes, Imagine my embarrassment when I invited a friend over and when we walked over to the living room, she is all up on him making out..! 
I get it that my mom needs someone special in her life again, but how do I tell her I just don’t like the guy and the way she act like a 15 years old?

I won't ever say nasty things about the guy to my mum, she can do whatever she wants with him it's her life. I just think me and the guy should stay separate, we obviously don't like each other's presences. I get it that my mom needs someone special in her life again, but how do I tell her I just don’t like the guy? 

Everything about them makes my blood boil. It's gotten to the point that my boyfriend can't hardly even mention his mother in casual conversation without me feeling a low level anger rising up in the pit of my stomach. Someone help. This is really getting to me. I'm a fixer and I don't know how to fix this one! Sorry for the length, by the way. 
I love you Sporah, you inspires me alot, and I love your show.
xoxo


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18 comments:

  1. Anonymous16:42

    It's important to talk to your mom about the situation, remind her that whatever decision she makes about her life directly affects your life, too.

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  2. Anonymous16:50

    Hey hey, am going through the same issue, i am a mother of two, I love my children to DEATH, but they just don't want me to date anyone. HELLOO, SMELL THE COFFEE PLEASE.

    My dear, the first to do is put your own feelings and actions in perspective. Ask yourself, “Why do I hate my mom's boyfriend?”
    Because in my case, my children are just JELOUS & SO SO SELFISH.

    Jealousy. They feel like they miss the attention and affection from ME (MOM) when there wasn’t anyone else in my life besides them.

    I THINK YOUR JUST..!
    Resentment. You’re mad at your mom for trying to replace your real dad with another guy.
    Fear. You’re scared your mom is trying to make a new family for you – a family you don’t really feel you need that badly.
    Thank you so so much Sporah for bringing up this. I love you sporah

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  3. Anonymous16:52

    VUMILIENI NDOA JAMANI KINA MAMA, ACHENI KUWATESA WATOTO, AH, Mnaudhi sana. Ona sasa huyu mtoto anaishia wapi??????

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  4. Anonymous16:53

    hey, get emancipated and move out, stop being selfish

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  5. Anonymous16:56

    heres ur real dad? GO to social services and tell them ur moms boyfriend is making an unfit environment for his child then ur moms boyfriend would be gone. SIMPLE

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  6. Anonymous17:12

    you should tell them how you feel

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  7. Anonymous17:14

    mh pole sana dada/kaka.

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  8. Anonymous17:18

    OMG, i thought i was the one one, I really hate my mom’s boyfriend, my mom had a lot of boyfriends and i am sick of it, grrrrr he makes me wanna smack them both, am sure one day i will lose it.

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  9. Anonymous01:42

    Selfish girl.!

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  10. Anonymous02:32

    There is nothing you can really do. Just hope he lays a hand on you and you can call the police and press charges. They will take him away that day!

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  11. Anonymous02:41

    why is that??

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  12. Anonymous02:45

    Wakina dada, haya ndio matunda ya kuzaa zaa tuuuuuuuuu. huyu mtoto ataishia barabarani au kupata mimba kwa mwanaume yeyote atakaemdanganya na kumuahidi happiness.
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  13. Anonymous01:31

    poor child

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  14. Anonymous02:37

    OOH it's like your talking to ME.!
    My mom had like 4 boyfriends last year, and just when i got used to one, she dumps him... I got used to another one, she dumps him... I got used to another one, she dumps him... I got used to another one, she dumps him... I got used to another one, she dumps him.... I'm 17 yrs this yrs since my mom started this UCHANGUDOA wa kichinichini, FACEBOOK, TWITTER, YOUTUBE, GOOGLE became my BEST FRIEND since i was 13 YRS.
    NOW she has a new boyfrind from Arusha/Tanzania, she came to live with us, I real don't like her new boyfriend, and the thing is my Bibi (Grandmother) dont like him either. If i tell her about it she just says "I AM ALOUD TO HAVE FRIENDS TOO". when he comes over, i am so tempted to do something evil - but my grand mother always tells me to be good so they put me to International boarding school in Kenya, WE all know he is just using her until he can find a younger prettier girl. i love my mom, but this is just pathetic.

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  15. Anonymous05:47

    why nor move to your grand mom then?

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  16. Anonymous14:40

    MH JAMANI WAKINA MAMA EBU JARIBUNI KUFICHA BASI VITU VYENU KHA.! MAANA HII SASA SIAIBU JAMANI?????
    SPORAH KWANINI USIJE KURECORD SHOW ZAKO NYINGINE TANZANIA??

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  17. Anonymous01:33

    I love your dress sporah.

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  18. Anonymous16:58

    Don't listen to the rude comments. That's completely inappropriate for your mom to do that in front of you. It really doesn't matter if she's your mom or not, it's innapropriate for anyone to do that crap in front of anyone.. Some people just lack mannerism.

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